Hey sis,

I see you...

You are a comforter, judge and jury, a chef, a nurse, the entertainer, the negotiator, a counsellor, a mediator and many other things as your role as mother. But somewhere amongst the juggling schedules and packing lunches it begins to fell all-consuming.

There is a silent battle going on, an identity crisis, as you grapple with who you are outside of motherhood.

Sometimes we do not recognise the person we have become, the one that has been shaped and molded by the needs of others.

This chapter of motherhood, you recognise as beautiful, but equally challenging especially when you start to feel like a a background character of your own life.

I remember when I started to realise how much of my life the children dictated.

From what to wear - I abandoned wearing heels to church, just incase I needed to suddenly dash off after a wayward toddler - to what I ate. For example, in order to not to be making multiple meals for everybody I prepared what I knew the kids would most likely eat.

And trust me I felt it. Especially when the yummy food of my culture, the ackee and saltfish, the fried dumplings and plantains - my kids did not appreciate, I had to schedule those kind meals for my self for when the children were not around.

But it was when I became a full time mother, I really started to feel that something about me was disappearing. The professional me. The go out and work me. The I have colleagues and team meetings me - not that I was a fan of team meetings, but I started to miss the grown-up connection. You operate in a different time zone than your friends. Your life revolves around play groups and nap times. There's no recognition. There's no promotion. There's no pay.

So I get it, the question is, how do you reconnect and reclaim your identity?

Here's three ways to help clinch your main role and take centre stage again.

Here's 3 ways